The Plan
Well. A plan has been negotiated. My options have died on the vine, except unassisted homebirth, which isn’t an option for my husband. I don’t blame him- I’m not sure it’s an option for me either.
First the remaining OB in the practice offered to schedule an amnio Friday and a c sec Monday with her partner- who I don’t want touching me again. We rejected that offer, obviously. Remaining OB wants to make sure we realise that she does not do VBAC and to transfer to her care is to guarantee a (repeat, elective) C section. WTF else are we supposed to do? We can’t get anyone else to look at the case and this the only VBAC friendly practice in town. We called one OB, a specialist, who promised to “look over” our case if we fax him my records. He takes only interesting and compelling cases. Hmm. Are we interesting and compelling?
Remaining OB finds a hole in her schedule for Friday. Asks my husband if I’ve tried Tylenol for the pain of the contractions. (It is a very, very good thing I’m not on the line during these phone calls.) OB schedules me for amnio Thursday at 9, and surgery Friday at noon given the results of the amnio are favorable.
Other options? none that I can think of. Wait till labor (or rather, wait and hope the cervical band that is preventing my cervix from dilation goes away on its own)? And then go in and have the OB still refuse a VBAC? Wait till water breaks, hope the cord doesn’t prolapse as happens sometimes with excess fluid, and then have a baby here? Hope he’s not as big as is speculated? The midwife won’t come near me right now. no chance she’d be willing to show up here and help out.
I suppose I could go to the local hospital and have one of the old timers deliver me- round the clock contractions with my history would be reason enough to have them make the call I’m sure. Cons to that include no NICU and the last time I had a baby there my incision was infected and no one believed me until they tried to take the staples out. Pros to that include proximity to family. And that’s about it.
Those of you wondering- I would go to 45 weeks if there was some way to releive the pain of contractions. I would try like hell to push out whatever size baby is in here if only I could sleep more than an hour or 2 at a time. We seem to be the only people in this process who give a shit about avoiding a surgery, and we haven’t yet been able to pursuade the “caregivers” that all I need is some fucking rest and I could keep going a little while longer.
So. Internet, please send me whatever kind of mojo you can conjure toward a naturally occuring phenomenon that might get this baby out of here before Friday at noon.